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Yes, I am livid. Seeing red. However you want to put it... and it isn't something new, as you might think.

My brother died alone in his home one year ago today. He led enough of a solitary life and was kind of a dick so he wasn't found for two more days. .... Guess that is better than my father who died alone in his apartment and wasn't found for three days.

Whatever. They were both assholes and they knew it. Prided themselves on it.

I am angry because I am the Personal Representative for my brother's estate. That means "Executor" in the old way of thinking... the one that takes care of everything after the person passes away. Yeah... that is me. I am both happy and sad that I have that role. It has its good side and its bad side, like everything does.

I am angry because the attorney that we chose to advise us for our estate has really done nothing but mislead us, albeit unintentionally, the entire time we have retained him. We were led to believe that the estate would close quickly and it didn't. We were told that since we found all the heirs it would be simple and it isn't.

He died a year ago and the estate still isn't closed. We made commitments based on the timeframes that we were given... in effect, made plans, paid for a future trip, based on the shitty, half-assed info from the estate attorney's office who didn't actually know what they were talking about.

Friends of ours paid ahead for some of this trip with the understanding that we would pay them before we left. The trip is scheduled for the end of April... three and a half months from now. Today is fucking January 9th.

Why the hell is this still going on??????????????????????????

Rough Day

Oct. 10th, 2016 09:33 pm
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Today was unexpectedly rough, but I am going to journal cuz my goal is to journal every day.

I have been sewing odds and ends this week... which is weird enough since I have been in a creativity slump for months. Just this past week I:
- mended and added colorful patches to a friend's flatcap
- dropped the cuff on hubby's work pants
- made a brown Viking hood for hubby
- made a black Viking hood with appliqu├ęd yellow crossed swords for hubby to marshal heavy fighting

The last few days have been filled with a surprising flood of creativity. I managed to sew and work on things without my usual self-sabotage and negative thinking. It has been a relief.

My next project is to put back together a blue-and-black cotehardie that I made a year or so ago and had taken apart to make a pattern from. Need to find it, though so today I decided to tackle some of the boxes that my brother-in-law sent back with me from his house.

See... my older sister passed away last August much to my dismay. Her husband and I are fairly close even though everyone else in the family hates him. He sent her sewing machine and what fabric she had with me not long after she passed and he is just now starting to sort through the rest of her things. This time he sent family photos and some boxes of random stuff. There are three tubs of photos and picture albums and three or four boxes and tubs of other stuff. I felt brave enough to start on the random stuff boxes because they have been just cluttering up the floor in my rec room and I need the space back. Well.... I found pictures in with the stuff.... pictures of all sorts but most importantly old pictures I have never seen of my mom, my dad, me, and my little brother - all who are gone from this world... she is gone, too, obviously....

Immediate Family death years:
- Father, died 1995
- Mother, died 2005
- Older Brother, died 2007
- Older Sister, died 2015 (last year)
- Little Brother, died 2016 (yup, this year)

Yeah........ I feel pretty beat up emotionally today and I haven't even touched the bins with the pictures and photo albums in them.



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March 2017



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